So as I've already mentioned in past videos lave pushing up over having all the answers to people.
It's about helping people to understand the extent of the choices that they have.
So in this film you are just quite quickly like take a few more wins to help you understand the ecological
aspect of goal setting especially in relation to when people are choosing the goals that they want to
prioritize and pursue first know what we need to continue to consider here is that relationships is
one of the main primary elements that people are going to have problems with.
They're going to be coming to you for life coaching.
So we know that the quality of our lives is determined by the quality of the relationships we keep in
all sorts of things.
So in order for us to make wise and well-informed decisions that are going to enhance the quality of
our relationships it's important that we understand this framework is just another model that we can
use to question and challenge people's motives when they are setting and establishing either goals or
priorities make sense.
Comprende you saw that basically this isn't that complicated a complicated model.
It's very very similar to that eisenhauer model but this one is just where we are reviewing the goals
that you either you set or your clients sets through a slightly different lens or we're looking at here
is where are the goals that your client is setting are truly good goals.
When I say good goals and meaning are the goals going to be fundamentally good for your client whilst
also being good for someone else because those goals are healthy goals they are what we'll call islands
to goals whereas Unfortunately many people set goals that are either completely selfish or completely
selfless.
No there's nothing wrong with being completely selfless selfless can be a good thing but if that's detrimental
to the progress the inclined would otherwise be making then it's not wise.
Our aim is good to give but we've also got to count the cost times.
Sometimes you with me let me explain because there's going to be some goals that your clients will set.
They'll think are good for other people but yet they're not going to be good for themselves.
No.
If these goals a client set are good for other people maybe be husbands wives employers clients children
whatever are not good for self then they're not going to find any fulfilment through their eyes.
I don't know I'd love to live a life that's actually full of life.
It's imperative that we as human beings and your clients are experiencing as much for Phil meant as
physically possible from us telling the girls that they are staying.
So I will always promote ecological goals that are both good for the client and good for other people
and exactly the same time because what we're creating here is a win win scenario.
And this is kind of what were always going to be helping to help our clients.
Accomplish when when.
Create an environment where everyone stands to win because some goals that your clients will want to
set are goals that are good for them are going to come at the cost to someone else and that's not particularly
ecological.
We've got to understand that the world of economics is based upon this principle the principle of opportunity
cost where not everyone can have everything at the cost.
No one for example.
There are men and woman in the world just North arend about 50 miles north from where I live.
There is an American guy he calls himself the 50 Billion Dollar Man.
Alright he's got a website called the 50 Billion Dollar Man.
Please feel free to check that out.
Alright I'm actually doing some naming and shaming here not far but to start a witch hunt or anything
but just to just to decide you have a look at how some people live their lives.
Let me tell you the guy's name.
This guy boasts and brags of the weakness of Pomes that he has 50 million pounds ewens castles on the
world.
If you think about the home sick would one person have to be holkham that they self consumed would one
person need to be to continue to pursue money when so many people throughout the nation and the world
are.
Brooke.
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No yeah.
There's so much known in the choice in this.
Some people have completely self consumed life seen as a life coach.
It's imperative that you play a part in challenging people's motives.
Is this a completely selfish goal or is a selfless less because the 50 billion dollar man or he could
go and make another hundred billion dollars.
But is he going to be any more of a felde.
I seriously freaking doubt it.
There ain't because no we understand core values Dorning.
So this brings us onto the types of goals that some people said that are not good for self are not good
for others.
For example let's use the 50 are we in boilerman again.
50 billion dollar man could wake up one morning and just feel to himself that he's not yet quite filled
in life so he needs to go out and make himself another hundred billion dollars or pounds.
And that's a funny thing when you have money you can do more with it.
You can vest you can take more risks and more chances is a pretty good chance that he would then go
on to make another hundred billion pounds or dollars.
But would you be good for him.
The answer is no.
Because if someone isn't yet filled up to the stage of having good generated 50 billion what difference
is another hundred billion going to make.
The one common theme that I've read I've come to recognize over the years especially in relation to
people who have amassed quite a lot of wealth is less than generally people that have a lot of money
and are generally more stressed out and fear red than that of what those who have little money because
people who don't have much are generally just driven and motivated by having enough querist people who
have areas that sort of Morri 50 billion haven't yet come to appreciate anything that behalf.
It's it's an ironic world there were 11 saw this framework is something that we can use to challenge
people's motives.
All right.
And is this important that you do this because if you're one a coach people coaching is about bringing
the best.
Some people will naturally conduct themselves selfishly sought by charging people by asking them case.
So tell me there's goal that you're setting here is is it good for you.
The me seeing yes tell me is it good for anyone else apart from you.
If they say yes then pursue the line of questioning with how.
How is it good for other people.
How is it good for you.
The whole question is a very open question if you like Alright.
You could just say is it good for you.
They'll say yes.
You could say is it good for other people they'll say yes.
You're asking a closed question.
Is is is always going to be a close question but if you ask the question Hope how is it good for you.
How is it good for other people just by use not one word.
You open the question right up there is going to lead to nothing less than complete honesty from them
dry they're going to be honest.
They're going to respond by saying I don't know.
Which would then lead you on to asking further questions such as what if you were to make a well educated
guess would you say that you pursued the school is still going to be good for you good for other people
or might it be otherwise.
So this is a framework that you can use to test the ecology of other people's goals and reason being
is because if the goals that people set are fundamentally just selfish then even if they do go on to
accomplish them I'm not going to find any longterm degree of fulfilment anyway.
And guess who would then go on to get the blame for that.
That's right.
It wouldn't be them.
It would be.
So again any additional material section there's a framework that you can download and build into your
repertoire of resources just to help you remember to descend to a life coaching practice.
When you get around to eventually helping people to set shape and define their goals.